Tips to Spark Life Back Into an Apparently Dead Relationship
Many years back, a song by music icon Beyoncé entitled “Ring the Alarm” was played on radio everywhere, she sung about a relationship having troubles and needing revitalization.
“Ring the alarm I been through this too long But I’ll be damned if I see another chick on your arm! Don’t you ring the alarm“
Ring the Alarm -Beyoncé
The hook was catchy bold and to the point. However, the song communicated the feelings that many are currently feeling in their relationships with their partner.
When two people are in love with each other, they are passionate and nurture a romantic feeling towards one another. But many couples feel that their passion fade away with the passing time and they do not feel the same attraction for their partners anymore. However, it does not mean that their relationship is over and they should simply move away from their partners. They can always try to give their relationship a second chance for revival so that they can again enjoy the colorful moments of love in life.
Pursue common interests together – Generally, many couples come close to each other because both of them have interests for common hobbies, like love for reading, music, dance, drama, painting, sports, or adventures. So the couples may rekindle their lost interest by doing their favorite works together, which will bring them emotionally closer again. Some couples may also enjoy cooking, gardening, or doing household chores together, through which they can spend some quality time together.
Have occasional funs together – Everyone must enjoy some fun in regular life, to break the monotony. Even the old couples should enjoy some fun-filled moments together, bringing back the spark of love in their relationships. The partners may go out for a romantic dinner or watch a movie, which will make them feel their lost love during these occasions. They may go together to a party and enjoy dancing with each other, as they might have done years back. Short trips to nearby places or a long vacation also help couples in reviving their relationships successfully.
Exhibit love more often – The older couples should not stop showing their love for each other to their partners, even years after they are leading a conjugal life. They should not feel shy to hug and kiss their partners when they are only in the company of each other. These romantic gestures will help them to make their mutual bond of love even stronger along with passing time. The couples may cuddle together while watching TV in their bedroom or listening to music together, as these touches of love bring back the original sparks in their relationships.
Speak openly with each other – The love partners need to speak frankly among themselves, about the lack of love or romance in their relationships. Honest communication can convey their mutual feelings for each other during such discussions. If a partner is offended due to any behavior or word of the other partner, he/she should openly speak it out so that the other person can get a chance to apologize for that moment and rectify his/her ways for improving their relationship. It is also a good idea to discuss in a friendly tone about the reasons for the loss of romance from their relationship or why they are now feeling bored with each other.
Recall the reasons for falling in love – Everyone should try to remember the exact causes that made them initially fall in love with their partners. It may be any physical beauty or the good nature or a special talent of that person, which attracted the other one and blossomed love in his/her heart years ago. If visual charm was the main reason of love at that time, it is likely to be lost at the later age and in that case, one should take into account other good points of his/her partner that also amused him/her. Both partners may speak out about the reasons of their attractions to the other one at their leisure time, to help themselves relive those romantic moments now.
Spice up conjugal life with new things – If the couples feel bored with the same way of life, they may start with trying some fresh ideas that can be enjoyed with their partners. They may try a few new tricks in bed, which will make them more fascinating to each other. They can read erotic jokes or play adult games with their partners, to bring them closer physically and emotionally. These new practices may make their life spicier and more enjoyable in their bedroom.
Act occasionally like new lovers – Usually, young lovers behave somewhat crazily when they are with their love partners. Likewise, the older couples may also act in the same manner sometimes, just to bring back the glorious moments of their lost love. They need to go on dating with their partners and enjoy every moment of that time, as they used to do before. It is better to choose new places for dating purpose, where they may discover their partners in a new light and mend their damaged relationship. Simple gestures, like holding each other in a new environment may make them feel better about their partners.
Stay away from the virtual world – Nowadays, many couples spend a lot of time on social media sites and Whatsapp, chatting with their friends there or going through the posted messages. In this way, they slowly become distanced from their partners and other family members. Hence, it is essential to switch off the mobile phone, laptop, tablet, and other devices of virtual communications, once the couples enter their bedrooms. It is also best to turn off the TV and radio, to spend time speaking lovingly to each other.
Stay away for some time – Sometimes, the partners take each other for granted, due to living together for a long time. So they stop feeling the importance of their partner in their life, which can be a major reason for their loss of love and even breakup of their relationship. Hence, a couple should stay apart from each other for a few days and notice the changes marked by the absence of their partner. In this way, they may finally realize how inevitable they are for each other when they will miss the other one badly.
Behave kindly towards the partner – One should be kind and gentle towards his/her partner in daily life, even if there is serious lack of love between them. This natural kindness may help in healing the emotional injuries that have occurred due to the hurting words thrown to the other partner, mainly during an argument among them. Moreover, kind words and actions may help in restoring the lost love in the hearts of the couple, which will prevent their relationship from ending abruptly.
Seek relationship expert’s advice – If all techniques of reviving a relationship seem to fail, it is best to seek help from a professional relationship expert. This expert’s advice may help in restoring the lost love, as tested psychological tricks are applied at the interests of a couple. Sometimes, experienced couples may also help others, who have undergone through the same dilemma themselves and successfully worked out in rekindling love in their relationships. However, the final decision about the longevity of a relationship should be taken by that concerned couple only.
Look into own heart for direction – One’s heart can be the best judge about the continuity of a relationship. A person needs to peep into his/her own heart to see whether he/she still loves his/her partner. If both partners find that a few sparks of love still exist secretly in their hearts, they should make new promises to each other, for making their relationship successful. They should trust each other for being true in their relationship, which they want to continue for lifelong.
Unmistakable signs that show the end of a relationship
It is natural for all relationships to go through tough times occasionally. But some relationships cannot be revived even after trying out all these effective techniques. The couples need to identify the signs that may tell them that their relationships are over and it is time for them to simply move on in life.
Continuous argument – When the partners argue continuously over trivial issues and no one is interested in stopping the quarrel, they may consider parting their ways. Usually, both partners stick to their stands and do not think of accepting the other one’s points at any cost. Hence, life turns into a battlefield for that couple where both want to win over the other partner.
Hurts self-esteem – The words and actions of one partner should not be rebuking for the other one, which can damage the self-respect of that person. Unreasonable criticism from the partner can kill the dignity of a person and even strikes his/her personality with negative impact. Hence, it is best to walk out of that relationship and save one’s self-confidence.
Ill uses of one’s secrets – Normally, everyone shares many personal secrets with their partners, due to their mutual love and trust for each other. But when someone finds that he/she can no longer confide in his/her partner; he/she feel unsafe because of the secrets previously revealed to the other one. This much lack of trust is a sure indication that they should part their ways and move on to the next phase of life.
Priorities for other people – Ideally, couples should give priority to their partners while spending quality leisure time. If a partner seems to give more importance to their kids or other family members than his/her partner, their relationship is sure to deteriorate and eventually die out with passing time.
Haunted by memories of past relationships – Both partners may have past relationships and it is considered normal. But no partner should be remembering the memories of his/her ex-lover, which can be disgusting for his/her present partner. It means that he/she is not satisfied with the current relationship and this seems to create a large emotional gap between two partners, drifting them apart. Moreover, verbal or even mental comparisons between the ex and current partner are the signs of a gradually dying relationship.
Rare physical intimacy – The older couples often lose interest in sexual intimacy due to physical inability or loss of passion for their partners. As this intimacy becomes rare among the partners, they slowly become emotionally strangers to each other. On the contrary, frequent physical intimacy can enhance the longevity of a relationship and make the couples happier.
Dislike for partner’s family – When a person dislikes every family member and also friends of his/her life partner, it is likely that he/she has no affection left for the partner as well. This dislike may turn into hatred for parents, siblings, and other relatives of the other partner, which is sure to seriously offend him/her. Thus, the couple will not be able to socialize together anymore, which is a sign that their relationship was heading to a dead end.
However, a couple must try their best to mend the weaker points in their relationship and make it last longer, before ending it. It is not easy for anyone to forget a past relationship easily and it may remain as an emotional wound in the memory of both partners, even if they move on in life by choosing other partners. So the partners should try every technique to bring the love back into their apparently lifeless relationship.